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Thursday, January 25, 2007

Prayers please

We found out today that nothing has grown since last week. There's nobody there. I'm in kind of a stupor though as long as I remain superficial I can function.
I had my hopes up so high... I was thinking about what we'd do with the girls' birthdays in September if I'm waddling around dilated to 3... but no.
We've scheduled the surgery for next Friday afternoon. I can go in Monday for a confirming ultrasound but it seems pointless. I want one closer to the surgery date just to be absolutely certain but five days before is meaningless.
I managed to say to my doc the earlier we do it the sooner the healing and recovery can start. I'm trying to convince myself of it.

St. Gianna, St. Elizabeth, and Mother Mary--pray for us.

Sort-of related if you squint: we've seen medals to St. Rachel, Jacob's wife. Does anyone know when her day is?

UPDATE 10:10 PM--Thank you everyone (and it does feel like everyone) for your kind words, thoughts, and prayers. They are comforting all of us.
Our parish Moms' Club met this evening and one remembered that last January, her son was diagnosed with Hodgkin's. He is now in remission. She said she got through it by her faith, knowing that it's not her place to tell God not to send any more bad things her way. They are all part of His plan. I'm reminded that even this is, too.

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At 10:56 AM, Blogger Diane said...

I'm so sorry.
Hugs to all five of you.

 
At 11:36 AM, Blogger carlos said...

Heartfelt sympathy to your family.

 
At 11:45 AM, Blogger Barb, sfo said...

With lots of sympathy and prayers for all of your healing.

I was unable to find a day for St. Rachel but she does come up in the readings for Holy Innocents Day (Dec. 28).

God bless you ALL, and may your little one rest safe in the arms of the Blessed Mother.

 
At 11:55 AM, Blogger Zach said...

Oh my. I am sorry.


peace,

 
At 12:05 PM, Blogger Peanut butter and sticky kisses said...

I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. I, myself, had a similar situation. Please know that we are praying for you and your family.

 
At 1:04 PM, Blogger The Mom With Brownies (The story of us) said...

I'm so sorry. Please know you are in our prayers

 
At 2:10 PM, Anonymous Christopher Johnson said...

I'm praying hard for all of you.

 
At 3:12 PM, Blogger HISchild said...

Healing and restoration to you and all your family.

In Jesus' name.

 
At 4:14 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so, so sorry!

I received the same stunning, devastating news at 20 weeks with my fourth child. It is a shock that no one can adequately describe.

May God hold you & your family in His care and bring you peace. He will bring you through this difficult time.

You are truly in my prayers,
Karen in Kenosha

 
At 5:42 PM, Anonymous Kheldar said...

You and Dale are in our thoughts and prayers, Heather.

If you need anything, even just to get out for a while, call.

 
At 6:22 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You have all my sympathy and prayers.
The same happened to my son and his wife with their first child.

May you and your family receive God's comforting blessing.

 
At 6:25 PM, Anonymous thomas tucker said...

Let me just say- be sure you do get a confirmatory ulrasound AND blood tests. We had a similar situation on an ultrasound and some vaginal bleeding but the blood tests showed the hormone levels still going up. Then a follow=up ultrasound showed that the baby was still there- it was good that we didn't have a D and C in between the two ultrasounds. I don't want to give unrealistic expectations but be sure you double-check both ultrasound and lab. God bless you.

 
At 6:54 PM, Anonymous Teresa Polk said...

The Patron Saints Index gives St. Rachel's day as November 1.  But I like Barb's idea too, thinking of Holy Innocents Day, which remembers Rachel weeping for her children as well as the deaths of children under Herod.  May God uphold you as people surround you with prayers.

 
At 7:16 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss, so quickly after the loss of your friend too. This must be a very sad time for you.

I think what Thomas said was good advice. If there is anyway you could go without a D&C you might want to just consider the option as there is the risk of Asherman's syndrome. At least as your doc about it.
God bless you during this difficult time.

 
At 7:18 PM, Blogger Suzanne Temple said...

I am so sorry. May God comfort you.

 
At 7:27 PM, Blogger Heather said...

Thomas--thank you for your kind advice. We've had three ultrasounds, all a week apart. The gestational sac was 13mm last week and 12mm today. And empty--no fetal pull.
My doc is certain, but I think I will take your advice and keep Monday's appointment for a final check.
As our oldest said, "God still does miracles."

 
At 7:31 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Words are empty at a time like this, but my family's prayers are with you. My wife and I just went through the same thing last August.

All I can say is the God's graces made the unbearable, bearable. His mercy was/is beyond all our wisdom. He flooded us with His love and instead of taking the burden of our grief away, He let us know, in an almost overpowering way, that He was sharing it with us.

Peace to the both of you,
Tom (and Sue) Kraemer

 
At 12:04 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry, guys. I'll be praying for you all.

Margaret

 
At 5:56 AM, Anonymous Kev said...

I am truly sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your family.

 
At 9:14 AM, Anonymous thomas tucker said...

Heather- that is what happened to us too. My wife was having some vaginal bleeding and the gestational sac was empty on ultrasound. But something told me to ask for another blood test and, lo and behold, the hormone levels were still climbing. So then I asked for another ultrasound and this time the baby was clearly there again! Coincidentally, I have been asking for the prayers of St. Gianna Molla, St. Elizabeth of Hungary, St. John-Paul II, and St. Mary every singel day for this baby who is now due in about 4 weeks- wiht the name Eizabeth Gianna. So, I will include you in my prayers and I ask for yours too. I know this may not turn out well for you, but just be absolutely sure before you have surgery.

 
At 9:36 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry. May you and your little one be comforted by our Blessed Mother. You don't deserve this.

 
At 2:43 PM, Anonymous Andy said...

My wife and I are experiencing the same loss right now. She was 6-7 weeks along but started bleeding and cramping this week, and miscarried this morning.

We had an ultrasound on Wednesday where we could clearly see the sac and a heartbeat. Today, the ultrasound showed nothing was there. We're both terribly sad and moping around the house today.

 
At 5:35 PM, Anonymous melanie b said...

Lots of prayers for you and your family have been pouring out from here. Just haven't been able to post anything until now. God bless you all.

 
At 8:42 PM, Anonymous Joanne said...

God bless you all. Prayers shall continue. I've been through the same thing 6x, but I agree w/your eldest about miracles. As little TJ in "Angels in the Outfield" said, "It could happen!"

 
At 1:15 PM, Blogger alicia said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It is the roughest part of my job to tell moms that it looks like there is no more room for hope. Even if your docs are not obviously shook up, trust me, it is usually a professional veneer - we can't help you if we are falling apart ourselves. May god bless you and strengthen you and your family.

 
At 12:34 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh, this just happened to us in November. It is terribly sad. I'm so sorry :( Prayers all around...

Tia Kay from CAPPMoms

 
At 12:47 PM, Blogger a thorn in the pew said...

Im so sorry. I have been TTC since our loss in Jan. of 05. Prayer and faith helps more than I can say. I will keep your family in my prayers.

 

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