Domestic Bliss Report

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Thursday, December 01, 2011

Sometimes I'm really, really bad.

Not "eat a whole cake" bad. Bad-wife-and-mother bad.
I will throw my beloved husband's clean clothes--that *I* washed, dried, and carried up in the hamper--right on the floor. Why? To beat him to it. If I leave them on the bed, hoping he'll take the time and initiative to put them away, he will simply shift them from the bed to the floor. Why did I put them on the bed in the first place? Because I have at least three other people's laundry to put away--Elizabeth's, Tommy's, and my own. I still have to sort and fold Lou's, then hand him each pile with specific instructions: "Put this in your pants drawer." I assume my loving, otherwise-attentive, intelligent husband will respect my time and energy and put his own clothes away.
I will not clean up after my older kids. I will let their rooms get almost dangerously impassable in their floor clutter of laundry, books, toys, and various other items before I harangue them to clean it up. I will not remind them to bring down their laundry for weeks, until they run out of weather-appropriate clothes. Then I will leave them to stew in their frostbite or sunstroke, waiting for the realization of "Maybe if I put my clothes where Mom will wash them, I wouldn't suffer like this." It doesn't happen.
It's a good thing they obey the rule of "No food in the bedrooms" or we'd have more ants than an African tree up there.
Right now there is a shirt with pasta sauce on it on the floor of the girls' room, along with the past 3 days' worth of socks, underwear, and other apparel. The shirt went there at the end of lunch today. I'm debating letting it stay until one of the following: a) it starts to stink, b) she notices, c) it comes down on its own. It probably won't get that far but that's where I am today.
I leave their clothes on the floor of the bathroom until it has more than their closet. They will stay there even when the perpetrator has to dig through them to get the shoes on the bottom of the pile. Nowhere will it cross the child's mind to get rid of the pile, nor will the child who tidies the bathroom address it.
Why? This is the really hard part. They don't see it. Well, yes, their eyes take them in, but those things don't register. They really don't.
I remember the commercial where there was a laundry basket floating down a flight of stairs, a broom whisking across a floor by itself, that kind of thing. The idea was the person (mother) doing those tasks was invisible. Sometimes I feel silent too, for as often as my words are ignored. It doesn't matter if I'm answering a question, either. I may as well be just moving my lips.
I just had to get that rant out of my system. Thomas needs to be fed.
At least *he* appreciates what I do.

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5 Comments:

At 6:34 PM, Blogger Melanie B said...

Oh I so feel this! Hang in there! In the past week I've been feeling like even Anthony doesn't really appreciate me as he's been biting me while nursing. And laughing when I yelp. Ouch.

 
At 9:06 AM, Blogger Deepak Kamat said...

Walking here with a smile. take care.. have a nice day ~ =D

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At 6:24 PM, Blogger The Wilhelms said...

Oh motherhood. We were really given NO clue just what the word "self-sacrificial" really meant, were we?

 
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